''Alone with Everybody''
Most people obsess over finding love. It seems like the concept of loving someone and being loved in return thrills most of us. It seems that we are all searching for someone that will make us feel ''whole''. Someone that will make us feel happy, full and complete. Someone that will ''fill'' us.
As Charles Bukowski brilliantly once wrote:
''[...and nobody finds the one but keep looking crawling in and out of beds. flesh covers the bone and the flesh searches for more than flesh...]
coming to the conclusion that no one ever in fact managed to achieve that.
And here's why: No one will save you but yourself, No one will love you but yourself, No one will fight for your dreams but you. You have to find a way to make yourself ''complete''. Because no one else ever will.
And I know that it's not easy, it is in fact very hard. But it's worth it. You own it to you. Do not relay on others.You have to approach other people in your life as co-travelers. That way,I think the relationships are healthier and the individuals get to grow and develop themselves both together and at their own.
And I know that it's not easy, it is in fact very hard. But it's worth it. You own it to you. Do not relay on others.You have to approach other people in your life as co-travelers. That way,I think the relationships are healthier and the individuals get to grow and develop themselves both together and at their own.
The sad part is, most of us will realize all of the above many disappointments later. Because we get so lost and desperate for love that we easily confuse it..
I don't know much about love nor I think that there's a recipe that works for all.
Each individual experiences life and feelings in a very unique way.
But I'll tell you that, many people in their search for true love and happiness stumble upon toxic, problematic relationships that leave them empty and drained.
No one should ever mistake an obsessive, possessive behavior for love. No one should ever accept jealousy as a sign of interest or care.
No one should ever accept a lover that puts them down all the time so they can feel superior to them. No one should ever think that a manipulative behavior it something okay.
It's not.
No one should ever accept a lover that puts them down all the time so they can feel superior to them. No one should ever think that a manipulative behavior it something okay.
It's not.
And when dealing with what is described above, one has to find the courage to leave. Don't let a bad relationship destroy everything good left in you. Don't let a bad relationship define your future with an other person. The greatest mistake someone will ever do, is to remain in an unhealthy relationship just because they are afraid οf being alone.
I think we should stop obsessing over finding the ''one true love'' and maybe, start looking for something that feels healthy and nice to begin with..
I think we should stop obsessing over finding the ''one true love'' and maybe, start looking for something that feels healthy and nice to begin with..
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Love your writing!! Keep it up!
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